Heat 2 Tablespoons oil in kadai, add curry leaves, onions, garlic and saute for 1 minute or onion become light brown.
Add desiccated coconut, fenugreek seeds, fennel seeds, cumin seeds, coriander seeds, dry red chilies, turmeric powder, salt mix well. Cook for 1 minute. Let it cool down.
Blend this mixture and make smooth paste.
Heat 1 tablespoon oil in kadai, add paste, mix well. Add milk to adjust consistency of gravy and cook for 4 to 5 minutes or till curry become semi thick.
Add paneer pieces, cook for 1 minute.
Serve hot with roti.